Saturday, October 30, 2010

when 2 is better than 1

i always love to attend wedding because i get the chance to witness the magical moment when they share their vows and promises for each other. especially happy when it's my dear friends' wedding. (:

that night, i had a great time with my buddies from fujitsu. lots of laughters and catching up to do.

i always remember those crazily fun days we had at faplccc office. sharing silly jokes and things... giving me advice when i need it.. looking after me like their little sister. always feel loved whenever i'm with them.

i miss them so soo sooo much.

thank you for the great night!

and may all you wonderful people be healthy and happy always. (:


and thank you ken for inviting me to witness the magical moment between you and steph.
may you and steph fall in love with each other over and over again.
may you and steph love each other more and more each passing days.
congrats. (:

halloween!

finally make my way to halloween at safari after grumbling about it for the past 2 years! very happy that for once i didnt missed it! :D

the whole place is packed with people and actually queued for an hour plus just to spend 5 mins in the haunted house. worth it or not? i dont know seriously. but it's the company that matters.. that make waiting much more fun and bearable! hah (:

thankyou for a memorable halloweeeen!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

well

whatever things that you want or need to say...
just say it

... because hearts are often broken by words left unspoken.


well, it seems really easy to follow but i'm a real loser that prefer to keep things to myself and never will have the courage to say it out!

Monday, October 18, 2010

read this somewhere..
something for you to ponder about :)

Five Regrets of the Dying By Bronnie Ware Platinum Quality Author

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventuallyacceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friendsuntil their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Friday, October 15, 2010

and it's tomorrow!

yup our 12th anniversary is tom0rrow.
and once again im the lucky one to be in charge for this year.
and i seriously hope no more 3rd year please.
i'm tired of all the planning and with people bombarding me with silly questions when the answer is obviously there..
and really tired of leading...
please bless us with good weather tomorrow.
no rain and not too sunny please.. (:
and of course all my plannings to go accordingly
and no SCREW UP!

hang on ziqi for one more day
and everything will be over
and life will go on as per normal...
i hope..

Monday, October 11, 2010

i seriously need to

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YOU LAAAAAH >:(

Friday, October 08, 2010

2 years (:

unknowingly i have worked here (bishan home, a place filled with little angels (: ) for 2 years!
well done ziqi! :D

and i also gotten my 2nd anniversary 'present'! hehehe

lately it has been a tiring and energy zapping journey. maybe it's a sign that i'm aging and no longer as energetic as before. :( but nevertheless i'm still hanging on and trying my best to enjoy every moment of it. well it's definitely not easy having to deal with volunteers...

often I have to remind myself to stay hyper and happy in order to engage my volunteers and make sure that they are fine even though there are moments when i just feel like sitting down quietly at one corner and not do anything. yeaa. that's the 'bad' side of my job. and often i feel that i'm putting on a mask when talking to people. hehehe. no choice when you have to deal with people. well... it's definitely tiring.. and i'm starting to feel tired...

but what drives me on... the smiles on my residents' faces each time after every activities/ sessions with the volunteers. all the fun they had and how they look forward to every sessions is what motivate me to hang on and want to give more to them. (:

i'm definitely loving every moment of it.. spending time with all my sweet and ever adorable residents and knowing them better with each passing days. we started off as strangers and now they have become a part of me.

time spent with them was definitely memorable.. they showed me the simplicity of life.. and taught me how to love and care for somebody...

and it warms my heart to hear them addressing me by my name or meimei (little sister, that's what i taught them to call me! heh) because it shows that they actually remembered who i am. and i have a place in their heart.

they cheer me up when i'm stress up over work and gave me the warm that i need.

they shared their food with me when they received special snacks from people... even though i told them it's okay.. you can have it but they will insist that i eat it together with them..

they protected me when somebody tried to disturb me and will even reprimand the other party and tell them that 'she is mine, you cant disturb her.'

they pack my table for me when they noticed how untidy my table is with papers around when im busy at work...

they make a card for me when i'm sick and absent from work and tell me to take good care of myself, eat well and sleep well..

yes.. that's how thoughtful they are..

and they are definitely the little angels in my heart (:

Monday, October 04, 2010


instead of asking me what's wrong, just give me a hug and tell me "it's okay, i'm here"

Friday, October 01, 2010

i dont know

something is not right.

i'm getting easily irritated recently. i'm not sure if it's because of the dumb things that the people around me are doing or questions that they asked; or is it because all the stress/ issues/ shits/ stupid demands that i'm facing and handling now.

sometimes i really feel like screaming out LOUD or just pick a fight with anyone for no reason. maybe behaving like a screwed up bitch will actually makes me feel better...

and i'm actually worried that one day i might just behave like that woman you seen on youtube scolding random strangers during my train ride! haha.

to make things worst, my headache refuses to go away. symptoms of stress? maybe

and no i know it's not pms because it's too early for that.

i lost my mood and enthusiasm for everything. and am really tired no matter how much i sleep or rest. no wait... did i even sleep? i dont know. a few friends are saying that i look different and tired now.. well it's time for more mask, vitamins and berry essence!

i guess there are times when im really tired.. tired of pretending to be cheerful and happy when i'm obviously not feeling that way.

yea.. i'm tired.. really tired of all the things that's going on now, tired of taking charge, tired of all the additional responsibilities piling up, tired of being happy, tired of being positive, tired of being nice, tired of being strong, tired of being taken for a ride, tired of myself, tired of everything and anything...

and elvis presley's song says it all!

i need a shoulder to lean on
i need somebody to, to tell my troubles to
no use denying, i'm close to crying
but what good, tell me, what good would my crying do?

i need somebody to help me
help me forget all those worries on my mind
and when im lonely, if someone would only
want to be sweet and kind

i need somebody, wont that somebody
please, please listen to my plea?
need that somebody, wont that somebody
come running to me?

i dont know... maybe i need a change of environment.. a break from everything..
and i know i need to sort this out myself.

i know it's a emo post.
dont worry much. just feel like ranting.