one of my client's father passed away recently. her relatives and father's friends were debating among themselves if they should do a closure for my client; to bring her to see her father for one last time. a couple of issues brought up and discussed but somehow eventually they decided that it is best not to do a closure for her and also she wont understand what is going on as well. thus right till today, at this very second my client is still unaware that her beloved father passed away. the one who love her most is no longer here with her and gone forever. i dont know the father personally and didnt get a chance to know him. pretty sad because i heard from my colleague that he is really a nice man.. like a mentor to people and always very affectionate.
i'm not sure if this is the right thing to do. making a decision based on your own opinion for someone. i know you guys struggled for a long time.. but because of that you deprive her of her only chance to see her dad for the last time. same for her dad as well... he didnt get to see her for a looong time. sigh.. i understand that she might not understand what is going on but i always believe that somehow they will feel it and they can feel it. right? give them a chance to mourn too..
well imagine.. the one who love you the most is no longer around and you are not even aware of it. maybe pining for him everyday and not knowing that he will not be here anymore... how will you feel? maybe to me i feel that it is important to do a proper closure especially when you are dealing with death. only than are you able to let go slowly..
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